After a games night with friends that lasted until 4AM, I had a coffee conversation with the newly-crowned Twister winner, D., regarding the power of a tease.
We've both been successfully bothered by individuals time and again that have this ability to twist our interests yet give no substantial evidence of having expressed anything other than comradery to begin with.
Why get us hot and bothered but leave us cooling our heels at the last moment?
Maybe it stems from the notion of pleasure delay. When something feels so good that you don't want it to stop, you delay the climax, if you will, to prolongate the pleasure. And if you happen to be the one controlling the amount of pleasure, that's an infinite amount of power and pain you can inflict upon someone else.
Are relationships so boring that psychological warfare are the new plays for affection?
Look at the need to please. You honestly want that other person to want you. Your role is make that other person feel good. But teasing is the whole "look but don't touch" mentality, which throws the art of affection into affliction.
When did Edith Wharton's novels of social manners explode inside of a strip club?
Questions I keep asking myself as I tiptoe through the minefields of prospective dates. I start to show an interest in someone and the flirtatious behavior runs from hot to disinterest in the matter of an hour. Granted, it transforms into a challenge, which everyone knows I love, but what's the motivation behind wanting the person who you don't know wants you?
I wonder if it fulfills the need to feel satisfied, i.e. you want what you can't have and you get rewarded when you do get it.
Sunday, September 13, 2009
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